Being YOU Can Change Your Life

There are so many things around us to pull us in one direction, mold us, and shape our views. So, do we ever know who we really are?

When interests, relationships and trends are constantly changing, how do we know how to get to the core of our authenticity?

And what is authenticity anyway?

Merriam Webster Dictionary Says authenticity is:

: real or genuine : not copied or false

: true and accurate

: made to be or look just like an original

Each of us is individualized and unique! By not copying what we see, and instead being truly genuine to our unique self, we can achieve inner authenticity.

Think about stripping away all of the outside stuff (relationships, environment, media) that shapes the energy around you.

Who are you without all of that?

If you aren’t sure, that’s ok! It also means that right now is a great time to start investigating.

 

TWEET IT! "The determining factors of who you are come from inside of you."

 

So here’s the deal. Stripping off the other factors can take some time, but you can choose to start discovering the authentic you right now.

Ask yourself these questions:

Who are you? And more importantly, who do you want to become? YOU CHOOSE! Isn’t that empowering?!

There are a couple ways to start discovering your own authenticity.

1. Clear your brain chatter.

I encourage you to find a comfy spot. Sitting, close your eyes and simply breathe. Your mind will probably get very loud with chatter from the people around you and experiences that are currently challenging you. Even the clearest minds still deal with some brain chatter. So when thoughts do come into your mind, acknowledge them and send them off. The more practice you have doing this, the more clear your mind will be.

2. Answer these questions in writing:

Who are you in this moment?

Who would you like to become?

It is important that these lists reflect descriptions of you on a soul level. So you might say, I am compassionate now and in the future I would like to be more peaceful.

Writing out your responses and getting these answers out of your subconscious will give you a lot of insight into what is missing from your life and what you need to let go of to grow and be true to yourself.

3. Take actions that reflect who you would like to become.

This is the double whammy, BIG TIME, action step. This is the piece of the puzzle that makes it all come together. 

The more actions you take toward the direction of your desires the faster your world is shaped to reflect those desires.

I just channeled that last sentence, so to make it more ME, I’ll rephrase:

Start doing things that are in line with the life you want. The more you do these things the sooner you will actually get the authentic life you’ve always dreamed of.

Lots of Love,

Ariel

Stellar Women - Aimee Mullins

And 7 Big Ways To Turn Adversity Into Action

“Don’t think about the consequences of what everyone is going to think if you fall, just get to the end of the runway, turn around, and come back.”  - Aimee Mullins

That's her! Aimee Mullins, the gal with a smokin' hot brain and body who Full Spirited is getting lots of inspiration from this month. 

This 5'8" sometimes 6'1" (depending on her mood) beauty broke three world records at the paralympics, was the Brand Ambassador for L'Oreal Paris, and even modeled for the legendary Alexander McQueen. She wore the most amazing carved boots that can be seen in her TED Talk, My 12 Pairs Of Legs. 

Aimee Mullins was born without fibulae (calf bones) in both legs and on her first birthday doctors amputated both of her legs below the knee. At age two, this strong spirited gal learned to walk on prosthetic legs and throughout her childhood she participated in sports like soccer and softball. Then she became the first double amputee to compete in NCAA Division 1 track and field. She has since become a renowned inspirational speaker, model, actress, and advocate for prosthetics that function well and empower by representing the spirit of the wearer. 

Her Message: “Adversity isn’t an obstacle we need to get around in order to resume living our life, it’s part of our life...if you see adversity as natural, consistent, and useful we are less burdened by the presence of it.”

Pretty amazing message isn't it!

Aimee’s message represents the uncanny ability for the human spirit to succeed in any circumstance. It shows that we each have the ability to take a not so good thing in our lives and use it to propel us forward and create change that is truly amazing.

TWEET + ABLE = We simply have to choose the outcome we want.

Are you thinking...ok, but how do you actually use the not so awesome stuff to create really stellar stuff?

1. No more pity parties

Parties are awesome, but not the ones with pity at them. When we focus on the negative or what we perceive as a negative situation we don't leave any space for all of the positive, good opportunities to come into our lives. We can be so focused on the negative, that when opportunity does come into our life, we miss it completely. The good news is, you can choose to stay positive.

2. Focus on the positive

Choose to see at least one positive thing in each of your experiences. There will always be more than one, but sometimes it’s hard to see them, I totally get it! The awesome part is that  when you choose to see one positive outcome, it opens the door to two more positive outcomes and then a not so good has the potential to become a really really great!

3. See adversity as a way to learn

If you are having trouble finding the positive outcome, try this out: Take a step back from the situation and see it as if there is a bubble around it. Your whole experience is in a bubble and you are able to look in on it as a whole. How did you grow from this experience? Do you have more confidence? More insight? A greater understanding of yourself or others? What did this experience teach you? This is your positive outcome.

4. Use your experience to help others

Now it’s time to create some stellar stuff! Think about what you learned from your experience and how you can help other people with your new insight. Is there a way for you to teach others what you learned so that their experience is a little easier? Has your experience led you to innovative ideas that can help society as a whole? What did you learn from your unique experience that you can use to help other people?

5. Surround yourself with people who encourage you to say yes!

Yes I can do it!

Yes I am going to seize that opportunity.

Yes I am willing to try again.

We all need a solid support system and we especially NEED encouraging people around us when we are faced with adversity. No matter what situation we are in there will always be that voice (the ego) that tells us we can’t, and we need people who see the bigger picture of what is possible for us to say YES, you can.

6. Create a gratitude list

This is huge! We can get so caught up in our to-do list, our relationships, and the not so good stuff that we forget about all of the things we are thankful for. I encourage you to get a blank book and every night before you head to sleep write down ten things you are grateful for. Even if you don’t get the book and you just spend time thinking about what you are grateful for, this will create a huge shift in how you function and perceive the world. When we appreciate more of what we already have, we attract more of what we want.

7. Take action and keep going

Let’s get real! There will always be some form of adversity. I believe (as pesky as it is) it sticks around to keep us growing on an intellectual and soul level. And if we can accept this as the reason for adversity while keeping our bigger vision (goals, purpose) in the front of our mind and soul then we will naturally take more action. When you take more action, you grow and learn even more, you positively impact more people, and your unique message stretches further to those who need it most.

Click on comments below to share how you are creating opportunity from adversity.

I would love to hear from you.